My Chapter from Love Her, Love Her Not: The Hillary Paradox Was Excerpted in Newsweek



By Estelle Erasmus

I’ve had a busy month. I’m a contributor in two new books that have just been released. The first, Mothering Through the Darkness: Women Open Up about the Postpartum Experience was edited by the HerStories team and published by SheWrites Press. More about that in another post.

The other book, Love Her, Love Her Not: The Hillary Paradox, created, curated and edited by Joanne Bamberger (who also wrote in the book)  is a bestselling new release on Amazon, and is also published by SheWrites Press. I was proud to have my chapter from the book excerpted in Newsweek, last week. You can order the book Love Her, Love Her Not: The Hillary Paradox.

Here is the excerpt.

Hillary Should Play Up Her Feminine Side

For the majority of her professional and political career, Hillary Rodham Clinton has rejected the purely feminine role, and she’s paid a steep political price for it.

When asked during Bill Clinton’s 1992 presidential campaign about her life, she famously replied, to much derision, “I suppose I could have stayed home and baked cookies and had teas, but what I decided to do was fulfill my profession which I entered before my husband was in public life.”

Women, particularly women who had never worked outside the home, were appalled at what they felt was her dismissive insult, and it hurt her on a grand scale, even though she later won the Family Circle magazine bake-off against Barbara Bush, her Oatmeal Chocolate Chip recipe defeating the traditional Chocolate Chip cookie recipe Barbara produced. Hillary’s 1996 bestselling book It Takes a Village: And Other Lessons Children Teach Us seemed to many to be a response to the world’s judgment about how she wasn’t motherly, as well as to her health care reform debacle.

Amidst the detritus of Hillary’s spectacular failure to win the Democratic nomination for president in 2008 was her absolute resolve to not use her gender as a political scythe and her desire not to be viewed through any sort of gender lens at all.

But Hillary’s gender, pundits say, is exactly what must be used as a key element of her strategy for a 2016 White House run.

Read the rest on Newsweek

Excerpted from Love Her, Love Her Not: The Hillary Paradox, edited by Joanne C. Bamberger (SheWrites Press, November 2015). Chapter by Estelle Erasmus.

Order the book on Amazon.


Love Her, Love Her Not: The Hillary Paradox
With Joanne Bamberger, the book’s editor and creator at a book event for Love Her, Lover Her Not: The Hillary Paradox in Astoria.



Now that you’ve seen several democratic debates, where do you stand on Hillary and her use of gender?


18 thoughts on “My Chapter from Love Her, Love Her Not: The Hillary Paradox Was Excerpted in Newsweek”

  1. I suppose she is being the best version of a women as she can be for the climate she grew up in. Hillary was born 20 years after women were ratified, I’m sure that has had an impact on her thought behavior. I know a few successful women in her age group who had careers who fought hard against the thinking of the time,that women should stay home; barefoot and pregnant.

    As with everything, no matter how you act or behave it will certainly not make everyone happy.

  2. Congratulations on being published in Newsweek! I do think Hillary cares about women, but I don’t believe it’s a gender-based defense. I think it’s simply her style to fight for the “underdogs.” What she considers the minority.

  3. Estelle, this is awesome and I did see your original article. Truly so proud of you my sweet friend and couldn’t be happier for this and all your success so far! 😉

  4. Wow. Newsweek! But I’m not surprised. You’re a terrific writer who is always timely, insightful and fun to read. Always enjoy your work and this is no exception. I guess I’m one of the few folks who was fine with Hillary’s cookies and teas statement. It seemed an honest expression of who she was rather than a dismissal of others. I, like Hillary, was a lawyer, but once my son was born I chose to be a stay home mom. I believe that while Hillary didn’t take this path, she supports those of us who do.

  5. Yes, congrats on your accomplishments! That’s wonderful news. I’m not a fan of Hillary either but I would be interested to read more about her – it might change my opinion for sure.

  6. Congratulations Estelle you are everywhere!
    I look forward to finishing your chapter and reading the rest of the book. I am not a Hilary fan but I am curious to know what everyone thinks and why.

  7. Congrats, Estelle! I’m a big fan of Hillary and agree with Helene – she’s certainly not perfect but I think she’s the only one who will come down hard on the NRA. And she’s genuinely a huge proponent of women’s rights, which is more than her Republican opponents can say – and that’s a big deal to me, as it should be to all women.

  8. As Carol said, you are on fire, girl! So proud of you. I am a Hillary supporter but I would never claim she’s perfect. You know what will sway me this election? The candidate who comes out most strongly for gun control. And that might just be her.

  9. I have long been fascinated with Hilary, she is a such an interesting political figure. I’m neither for or against her, simply because I don’t think any of us have the real truth. Who she really is remains a mystery to me. I am being to believe she has an unquenchable thirst for power.
    Thank you for your well researched, well written article!
    Kimberly XO

  10. You are setting the world on fire with your work! I have been all over the board on Hillary but largely supportive. We want her and life to be black and white, but…it’s not.

  11. Hillary lost me with the cookie statement. I had been home for a while raising children after working at a very difficult job. Her dismissive style has never left her. Except for not being able to dismiss a philandering husband. After watching clintons team deride the women he abused with sayings of “if you drag a dollar bill through a trailer park these are things you will pick up” I realized she doesn’t really have the backs of women, she just has a need for power. She will use gender if she thinks it will help her get elected.

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