Here is a bedtime story to tell your little daughters…tell them…every night if you are able, because it is they who will change the world… they will have to. But you can give them a head start.
Once upon a time there was a woman. She studied hard, probably got into college; then began working in a profession, whether social work, publishing, television, communications, retail, education or another field. She liked what she did and was good at it. But then she got married (or didn’t) and had a baby, or two, or more. And what had worked before, no longer worked because the policies of corporate america give lip service to, but don’t really support the combination of working and being a mother.. So the woman who was now also a mommy had to figure out how to make the best of her skills, and lucky for her a new industry had just been born… blogging.
The mommy started blogging; telling her story, and slowly but surely she found a lot of other mommies who did the same thing. These mommies formed a community of smart, savvy women, and eventually the brands and sponsors came calling. The mommies figured out that they could meet more of each other at conferences and form even greater communities and learn even more. When they went to these conferences, many of them, especially the grand lady of conferences, BlogHer made it simple for the mommies to get babysitting help. Other times, these mommies had help from the daddies. They missed their chiildren when they went away, and sure, they had fun, but more importantly, they solidified their personal and professional contacts, which ultimately allowed them to grow their businesses, which is the reason they went to the conferences in the first place.
It’s important for you to know that because your mommies are much, much more than just mothers. They are women. And deserve the same child-free time that daddies seem to get as their right, to recharge their batteries. But, mommies are recharging for a different reason as well, and have a different battle to fight.
Women and mothers need to change the world. Women and mothers need to change the subconscious ways that people think in our society. Why? You ask.
Because, as your mommy’s idol Gloria Steinem has always said, there are people in a patriarchal society that want to keep women and mothers down, want to minimize their impact even if they are smart and successful. Especially if they are smart and successful. These people use tools like newspapers and magazines and television, and female reporters driven by a lust for fame, and try to turn women against each other; all because they are threatened. They even use the term “mommy bloggers” to describe us. But when used that way the term is distasteful to most of us because it doesn’t credit us with the fact that we are more than mothers; more than mommies, even though we love being your mommy.
It is even used to discredit mothers who have created a movement to help other mothers. How awful is that?
So it’s up to us to put a stop to it. How can the mommies do that, you may ask. By using the power of our more than 50% of the population. Even if we’re treated as if we’re second class citizens. It’s all about control. So we take back that control. We bond together, and together we have maximum impact through using our buying power. And we will use the hashtag that Miss Representation has set up and help them to bring the app to market that says #Notbuyingit.
So the magazines and newspapers that disparage us? We will refuse to buy them. We will cancel our subscriptions. We will cut and paste every story of every issue and send it out to the other women and mothers we know so that nobody needs to ever buy another magazine or newspaper. And we will tirelessly tell brands and sponsors that we do not wish to be called mommy bloggers.
And we will wait. Maybe not patiently, but we will wait. Until you our darling daughters are in a position to change the world. Because we are trying, but we KNOW you can do it. And we are going to work very hard (as hard as we work at blogging) to give you the tools to make that happen.
That is our revenge.
How do you feel about the constant misrepresentation by the media of mom bloggers and mothers in general? What can we do to stop it?